Hey T
I’m so proud of you making this vlog for several reasons. One its out of your comfort zone but yet it is a very much needed conversation. I know I at one point was very obsessed with marriage and getting married and I’m not even 20 yet lol. But today one of my prayers is that God will put that desire to get married on pause. Because when I received the revelation of God purpose for marriage I knew in my heart of hearts that I would fail at being a wife and a mother if truly given the opportunity today. I do believe it is a sense of lacking contentment. Not being satisfied within ourselves. I believe we think that right now in our single state everything that isn’t good right now would be better if we got married or had a husband to comfort us in our tough times then at least we wouldn’t have to go through this walk alone. But when u really think about it marriage will not work that way. It will actually work the opposite the number of tough things we experience on a everyday basis with just ourselves will increase and we have to make sure that we are being selfless and submitting. When we get married it will literally no longer be about what we want or how we feel. Even right now in our Christian walk as singles it isn’t about what we want or how we feel and that’s probably why God was like girl u ain’t ready yet, you still asking for a marriage so that your desires and needs will be met on the low. And I’m referring to me it maybe a whole different situation for you
It was the same exact way for me too! I wanted my own desires to be filled on the low, lol. Seriously! That’s when I realized I was being manipulative and thought that I was going to get away with it and that just isn’t true. God will reveal the motives of your heart real quick! Once I become fully content in God, I know that my husband will come.
Tee! So glad you tackled this topic…I love love love how honest you were with the truth of waiting and how it truly isn’t as easy as people try to make it; the whole “work while u wait” advice has also gotten stale in my book too girl, happy u kept it real. I honestly feel like in Christian culture we are too stuck on the idea of “waiting” and not honest enough with ourselves to play with the “what ifs…”. I know it’s not a fan favorite, but I ask myself when I’m in those eager moments “what if I never find the so-called one? What if I never get married or have kids?” Will my opinion of God change? Will I think that my life is no longer as valuable as it was when I thought that my time was leading to this grand moment of matrimony? I read an article once written by this girl who was Christian and she basically said she is done waiting. If it happens for her then she would basically cross that bridge when she got there, but she wasn’t expecting it either. I totally agree with that ideology (not to take away anything from marriage) but I do think that intimacy and joy can be found in multiple ways in our lives, and not necessarily just through romance…ya know? Anyhow, I don’t want to write you a novel so I’ll wrap it up & just say that I love you & your blog 🙂
Yo Tia, I totally agree! I came to that same conclusion just yesterday. I literally went to this Christian forum and poured my heart out on how I felt like I was literally stuck in between 2 battles: Whether to stay single or keep believing in a future marriage. And this lady responded and her answer convicted me. She said that she went through so many relationships throughout her lifetime trying to find contentment, but she realized that through each failed relationship and even her marriage, she did not have contentment in God. Her only job in her single season was to just take the information God gave her, have faith and stand on that Promised Word, and keep on living for His Glory. So in a way, it is giving up, but giving up something we were never meant to take on. Our job is to stand in faith until there is more given instruction.
I have found that all what I have heard about my future marriage (from God and others) was designed to just get me to deny myself and get myself out of my comfort zone.
Enjoying the sweetness of god 
Hey T
I’m so proud of you making this vlog for several reasons. One its out of your comfort zone but yet it is a very much needed conversation. I know I at one point was very obsessed with marriage and getting married and I’m not even 20 yet lol. But today one of my prayers is that God will put that desire to get married on pause. Because when I received the revelation of God purpose for marriage I knew in my heart of hearts that I would fail at being a wife and a mother if truly given the opportunity today. I do believe it is a sense of lacking contentment. Not being satisfied within ourselves. I believe we think that right now in our single state everything that isn’t good right now would be better if we got married or had a husband to comfort us in our tough times then at least we wouldn’t have to go through this walk alone. But when u really think about it marriage will not work that way. It will actually work the opposite the number of tough things we experience on a everyday basis with just ourselves will increase and we have to make sure that we are being selfless and submitting. When we get married it will literally no longer be about what we want or how we feel. Even right now in our Christian walk as singles it isn’t about what we want or how we feel and that’s probably why God was like girl u ain’t ready yet, you still asking for a marriage so that your desires and needs will be met on the low. And I’m referring to me it maybe a whole different situation for you
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It was the same exact way for me too! I wanted my own desires to be filled on the low, lol. Seriously! That’s when I realized I was being manipulative and thought that I was going to get away with it and that just isn’t true. God will reveal the motives of your heart real quick! Once I become fully content in God, I know that my husband will come.
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Tee! So glad you tackled this topic…I love love love how honest you were with the truth of waiting and how it truly isn’t as easy as people try to make it; the whole “work while u wait” advice has also gotten stale in my book too girl, happy u kept it real. I honestly feel like in Christian culture we are too stuck on the idea of “waiting” and not honest enough with ourselves to play with the “what ifs…”. I know it’s not a fan favorite, but I ask myself when I’m in those eager moments “what if I never find the so-called one? What if I never get married or have kids?” Will my opinion of God change? Will I think that my life is no longer as valuable as it was when I thought that my time was leading to this grand moment of matrimony? I read an article once written by this girl who was Christian and she basically said she is done waiting. If it happens for her then she would basically cross that bridge when she got there, but she wasn’t expecting it either. I totally agree with that ideology (not to take away anything from marriage) but I do think that intimacy and joy can be found in multiple ways in our lives, and not necessarily just through romance…ya know? Anyhow, I don’t want to write you a novel so I’ll wrap it up & just say that I love you & your blog 🙂
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Yo Tia, I totally agree! I came to that same conclusion just yesterday. I literally went to this Christian forum and poured my heart out on how I felt like I was literally stuck in between 2 battles: Whether to stay single or keep believing in a future marriage. And this lady responded and her answer convicted me. She said that she went through so many relationships throughout her lifetime trying to find contentment, but she realized that through each failed relationship and even her marriage, she did not have contentment in God. Her only job in her single season was to just take the information God gave her, have faith and stand on that Promised Word, and keep on living for His Glory. So in a way, it is giving up, but giving up something we were never meant to take on. Our job is to stand in faith until there is more given instruction.
I have found that all what I have heard about my future marriage (from God and others) was designed to just get me to deny myself and get myself out of my comfort zone.
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